Monday, 15 January 2018

…Doing a new thing

As you’re probably all aware of by now, the skinny (body) shaming I went through took a huge toll on different aspects of my life and my wardrobe was not exempt.
So this year I decided to act on my desire to completely change my clothes and start to buy items I actually want to wear as opposed to what I was wearing because I felt the need to cover up the size/ shape of my body.

I want to unapologetically blossom and showcase God’s beauty even in the way that I dress. So it’s out with the old and in new with the new, including the contents of my closet.

I hope this video inspires you to fully embrace your own sense of style and not let your circumstance or those around you, dictate how you portray yourself.

Please click the link below to watch this new step in my confidence journey and let me know your thoughts.

Love Always,


Sunday, 7 January 2018

Broader Outlook: Taking the limits off

Towards the latter part of 2017, I decided to do a review on what I was doing, especially on my YouTube channel/ Blog. So I reached out to most of my subscribers and asked what sort of content they would like to see more of.

It was an eye-opening exercise, as it broadened my perspective, triggered my thinking cap and opened up oceans of opportunity for growth.

I’ve now decided to open the lid on a lot of things I desired to do but was holding back on for a number of reasons and I am using the feedback as a springboard to explore different areas I can cover, as opposed to having a rigid structure on how and what I post.

I’m embracing this change and seeing it, as something good for this space, as I delve into newer and different themes relating to Confident Living.
I am also really excited and thankful for what lies ahead and know that together, we can make 2018 a year to be reckoned with.

So to kick-start the year, have a look at my motivational video below and I hope it inspires you ask yourself that ONE vital question, which it's answer will help push you through.

Much Love,


P.S: If you have not already subscribed to my blog posts or YouTube channel, you may want to do so now, to avoid missing out on what I will be bringing to the table this year 😁.

I stood at the shore for so long- not able to step out, but thank God for mercy and the willingness of heart to just TRUST Him.
From this better viewpoint, I can now see further than I did before.
 So look out! In this year of impossibilities become possible, He might just have me walking on water. However, I will rest assured, knowing He will be with me every step of the way as I walk through the unventured.


Friday, 1 December 2017

Can history repeat itself?

In light of what has been happening in Libya and many other countries around the world, I thought I should make this video to shed light on what you can do, especially if you are feeling helpless at this time.


Tuesday, 28 November 2017

The Swan, Peacock & Flamingo

As a follow on from my previous blog post ‘The Pineapple…’ I thought I should share my thoughts on the destructive nature of beauty comparison through the illustration of three birds.

The Swan, Peacock and Flamingo are three very different yet beautiful birds.
The individual uniqueness of their physical appearance sets them apart and without competing with each other, they continue to display their own distinct splendour.

The swan is graceful in the way she conveys herself and serene in character. The peacock, magnificent with her intricate detail of pretty vibrant feathers and secure in knowing who she is and what she carries. Finally, the Flamingo, who not only embodies elegance and femininity, is also balanced in her stand and well poised.

Saturday, 25 November 2017

5 years on...what I have learnt and what I am grateful for.

Earlier this year marked 5 years from when I uploaded my very first video 'Let the journey begin', onto YouTube. So for me, that marked the start of my confidence building and living journey and me truly embracing my purpose in life.

Please watch the video below to see what I have learnt and what I am most grateful for.

Please click the link below to view this video


Saturday, 18 November 2017

The Pineapple - A symbol of Confidence

"Be a pineapple. Stand tall, wear a crown and be sweet on the inside".

A few years back, I came across the above statement and immediately embraced it as a statement that with a few tweaks I could adopt as one of my personal mantras.

Here’s my version:

Like a pineapple. Stand tall, wear a crown, have tough skin but be sweet on the inside”.

This symbolism of the pineapple represents a big part of what confident living means to me and below is a breakdown of each section, which I hope inspires you as much as it does me.

Stand Tall:
For someone who measures a mere but mighty 5”2 (.5 to be precise 😀), tall is not a word you would use to describe me. But you see, it’s not about what you and I see on the outside, but how I feel about myself on the inside that will eventually project outwards.

I was so used to hiding, being in the shadows and not wanting to be seen, that it eventually affected how I carried myself and interacted with people.
However, like many other things, I have been actively changing my past fear driven behaviour by pushing boundaries, standing up for myself, saying ‘no’ when I want to say no and not ‘yes’ just to please, making eye contact, trying to start and hold a conversation past one liners and doing things outside of my comfort zone, that although may be uncomfortable; will ultimately cause me to grow.

All of these courageous acts have come about by knowing who I am in Christ and standing ‘firm’ in my faith and belief, that through Him all things are possible.

Wear a Crown:
I am royalty. No further explanation needed. I will no longer apologise for who I was created to be and the life I have been called to live, regardless of how many feathers I ruffle.
Without being pompous, I will remain confident in my own skin and my beauty.
So allow me to take a few seconds to straighten my crown and walk with my ‘Head Held High’.

Have tough skin:
Not only does this bare resemblance to the skin of a pineapple, but it also resonates so much with where I am coming from.
Tough skin has enabled me to weather the storms of life and continue to do so. It will also prevent me from taking to heart negative criticism, people’s rejection, misunderstandings or just plain hate.
There is too much at stake for me to continue to fester on the piercing arrows of peoples wounding words, as I’ve spent years trying to heal from the past.

In addition, just like the skin of a pineapple, you may look at my outward appearance and not think much of me or what I may have to offer; but I know just how good, what lies within.

Sweet on the inside:
Loving, kind and generous are all words I want to be described as. These attributes will continue to make me sweet on the inside, pleasing to my Heavenly Father and a delight to those around me.
I want to give so much of myself to helping and loving others that my actions alone exuberate love.

So I’m lovin’ my way to confidently living my life and knowing that although I may not be where I want to be, I am no longer where I used to be. I am a better, more confident person who is taking things one step at a time.

N.B: I am not in any way advocating that you develop a ‘self’- centred’ attitude but if like me, you have spent many years living life without much confidence, then I’m sure you will understand and appreciate my reasons for writing this post.
I think that to be able to possess these qualities, yet remain humble and still have a ‘servant’s heart’, is something I not only desire but also strive towards.
That’s why the below scripture always stays at my forefront to help keep me in check:

“Do nothing from selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility value others above yourself, not looking only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus.” – Phil 2: 3-5

I encourage you to watch the below video of ‘How to become/gain confidence’ as a follow on from this blog post and where I share vital tips that I have learnt on this journey so far.
As usual I would love to hear your thoughts on this so please feel free to comment below.

Until next time, remember “It’s one step at a time to becoming confident”.

Love you guys,


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*Pineapple Illustration by: @abo_akin