Sunday, 15 January 2017

Always A Lesson To Learn

The best teacher award for 2016 goes to Donald J. Trump...yes you read that right.

Amidst all the things that took place last year I inadvertently learnt the most from him. 
A lot of what he had to say infuriated me and if I am honest, it took serious will power not to get offended by him. You see his offence could potentially block the flow of love in me, and without love, I am nothing. 

Side Note: [I am learning that walking in love with people; particularly those that are the hardest to love, is one of the most important decision I can make and I employ you to do the same. 
It is overwhelmingly liberating to have a peace that nobody's attitude or behaviour towards you can take away].

Nevertheless, a wise man once said "do not overlook any opportunity to learn, especially when things do not make sense. There is always a lesson to learn in the difficult and different circumstances or events of life", and learning have I done.

For me 2016 marked a vivid shift in how I view the world and what I think is or is not possible. It showed me that we must not always confine our thoughts to what we can see or how things have always conventionally been done. There must always be scope for change or change will force it's way through regardless.

I picked up a couple of valuable lessons from the campaign and victory of Donald Trump, and being that this week is the start to his inauguration, I cannot think of a better time to share some of them with you.

Have a fabulous week and let me know your thought on the video below:

Wednesday, 11 January 2017

Am I starting this year off on the wrong foot?

...My stance this year is not due to lack of planning or thinking, neither am I encouraging inactivity. I am also not advocating you go through life with no direction, plan, purpose or desire to improve yourself.
I just feel that I need to start doing things for the right reasons and not just for the sake of it. I have found that if I have not specifically been lead of God to take a particular route or start something, then it often fizzles out as quickly as it started.

The reason we often fail miserably at resolutions is that we like the potential outcome the idea poses, but we do not like the process or change required to getting there. If the truth be told, all too often that change is just too big a requirement on our current lifestyle.

You may have dreams and aspirations, but the timing to execute them may not necessarily be now. I am steadily realising that there is often a lot of learning and plenty of prep that is necessary before I am anywhere near ready, which is also true of some of the biblical examples before me.  
That is why I am applying the same principles of planning ahead and taking time out before I embark upon any new project (resolution).

There are things that I am doing now, that I know I could not have done a couple of years before. A lot of growing has happened in between and I have changed in the process. This in turn has helped build me up to the state where I can handle the challenges that come with that particular task. In the same line, there are things that I am not ready for now, but I know I will be in the future.

So take heart, hold on, be patient and take each season and phase as it comes.
DO NOT look around and compare your progress or activity to others, because that is the quickest way to get distracted from your course.

Watch this video with an open heart and I hope you understand where I am coming from.

If the conviction and passion to see change through is not there, then I am simply not going to do it.

Click the link below to watch my video and feel free to let me know what your thoughts are on this topic.

I love you guys, A+

Thursday, 29 December 2016

Why I jumped out of a plane

I will no longer allow fear to dictate what I can or cannot do. If my spirit is at peace, then it is all systems go.

Let's make 2017 count in a fabulous way and block out the noise of doubt and fear.
God has not given me the spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind – 2 Tim 1:7

Let this video inspire you to do what you need to do. Enjoy!

Tuesday, 13 September 2016

Just Do It

After speaking to a friend, I was reminded just how much fear was impacting my progress in life.
You see years of pulling myself down had taken its toll on how I interacted with people and what I thought or felt I could say or do. It also made me build a self-limiting wall, guarding me against anything that might want to shake me out of the comfort of not speaking out.

Here’s an example:

I can be very opinionated within my quarters (my safety place among people that I know and are comfortable with). However, take me out of that scenario and I become an observer. Even if I want to contribute to a discussion, voice my opinion or thoughts on a particular topic, or speak out regarding something I may not agree with, I still find myself shrivelling back in fear.

There have been a number of times I have wanted to tweet something and then at the last minute just as I’m about to hit tweet, I delete it and forget about it for fear of rubbing people up the wrong way.
I then justify my actions by saying  “I probably wouldn’t have made that much of an impact anyway”. What difference can a drop make in an ocean, right?

Yet, there lies the problem, the fact that I keep feeling that my ‘little’ can’t make that much of a difference, or my voice shouldn’t be heard. On top of that, I really don’t want to have to feel the pain of rejection (rejection of not being accepted or understood).  

Nevertheless the truth, which my friend reiterated is that I would never truly be free until I stopped worrying about insignificant nothings.
I need to constantly remind myself of why I’m doing this and not lose focus and be distracted by the cripples of fear.
I need to forget about how I will be perceived or whether or not people will understand me, because no matter how small, I have a platform to impact people’s lives for the better.

So what is it that you're afraid of?”

Pause. Think about it, and when you’ve got the answer, then ‘Just do it’.

Do the very thing that makes you quake in your boots, because no matter how scared you may feel at the time, that action will very likely make a much bigger impact than you can imagine; leaving you wondering why you didn’t make moves a lot sooner.

God has not given me a spirit of fear, but of power, love & a sound mind (2 Tim 1:7), so I WILL speak out when & where necessary.

Please watch the video below where I VOICE my opinion on a particular issue that i’m passionate about, and let me know what you think.


Sunday, 19 June 2016

Active Labour Stage


To the woman with no child(ren) yet.

The woman who is constantly bombarded with questions from outsiders such as “still no children?” or “how long do you want to wait…don’t you know time is against you?’’
The woman who does everything to hide the pain and frustration she feels from the endless insensitivity of people.
The woman who has no choice but to press on and act like everything is OK, when deep down she knows it isn’t.
The woman who has spent many nights crying out in prayer, wondering ‘why her’ and if she will ever get to experience motherhood.
The woman who knows she would make a great mother and wonders why so many women who couldn’t care less about their children were bestowed with the precious gift she eagerly yearns.
The woman who now lacks confidence, because she’s been made to feel inadequate.
The woman who has started to question her faith.
The woman who all she is asking for, is to feel the joy of holding her own child one day.

To that woman, this is #JustForYou

I am dedicating this blog post/ vlog to one of my dearest friends.
I remember how nervous I felt when it came to sharing my great news with you.
I felt a sense of awkwardness, because I knew that you wanted to experience the same thing; to be able to pick up the phone and tell me that you were pregnant too.
I found myself toning down my joy and excitement, just so that I didn’t come across as insensitive to your feelings.

Well  just want you to know that:

I may not be able to feel your pain, but I certainly empathise with you.
I may not be in your position, but I know the heartache that comes with wanting something so bad, it hurts.
I may not fully understand, but I know God does and He actually cares.

It’s easier to trust what we can see rather than what His word says.
Let the accompanying vlog serve as an encouragement; that regardless of what people say or how you may currently feel, there is still hope and that hope will birth forth your deepest desire.
I want you to see this period of your life as being in ‘Active Labour’.
It’s often when things get the toughest, and the pain almost unbearable that you are on the brink of receiving something beautiful, something worth all the pain.