Wednesday, 12 July 2017

A piece of heaven on earth

At the end of June, my husband and I travelled to the beautiful Greek island of Zakynthos (Zante) to celebrate our wedding anniversary. However, this was not the only thing we celebrated because as you will see in the video below, I have truly come a long way in overcoming my body confidence issues and how I see myself.

I know a lot of people have not been able to relate to my journey, because they find it odd for a naturally thin person to dislike their body, let alone have issues with it. However, as I have previously stated, the problem really is not in the size or shape of our bodies, but in the mentality we have about it.

I have often used my previous travel vlogs to document how I am getting on in my ‘journey’, but this vlog was definitely different for me, because I feel this year the veil had finally been lifted.
Following on from my last blog post ‘Love Thyself’ [click here if you have not already read it] I am no longer self-conscious about my body, especially in public places like the beach.

Previously, I would get very anxious wearing anything that would show my size and slightly straighter body frame. I did not enjoy wearing a swimsuit or bikini without a cover-up or sarong. This was not necessarily for modesty reasons, but because I hated my body and was overly concerned with what people thought of it; particularly my thigh area which showed my thinness the most.

This mind-set was a true prison, joy-killer and just dulled out the sparkle of life, but thank God for freedom, because not a single thought of what people may think came into my mind the entire trip and I just enjoyed living.

Anyhow, we had so much fun, felt rejuvenated and felI in love with the place I have now tagged ‘a piece of Heaven on earth’.
So here’s a sneak peak into some of what we got up to, the breathtakingly stunning views we saw and most importantly, scenes of me being free in who I am and accepting/loving my body regardless of its size; that in itself is heaven for me.

I hope you enjoy viewing our pictures and mini vlog and not only get inspired for your travels but like me, embrace living a more ‘Confident Life'.


Thursday, 6 July 2017

Love Thyself

One of the first and most fundamental things we need to live a confident life, is to actually ‘Love Ourselves’.
Sounds simple, but not until God gradually began to reveal to me, just how far away from His idea of what truly loving myself was and the freedom that came with it, did I realise how little I knew of this love.

I also saw how my relationships were suffering as a result of this lack of love.
You see one of the greatest commandments Jesus gave was to “Love your neighbour as you love yourself”* and I had never really given much thought to the  …”as you love yourself” part.
I did not question how I was meant to show love to my fellow man, if I did not truly love myself.
Bottom line: How was I meant to give something that I did not have within?

I asked God by His spirit to teach me how to love myself and it has been a process through His GRACE, that has not only increased my confidence but has also helped me freely pour out love to others, because I was doing Love His way; unconditionally.

The love I am talking about is not the conceited, arrogant ‘self-love’ that is mainly rooted in self-centeredness. Nor although necessary, is it the nurturing type of self-love in which emphasis is placed on caring for your well-being.
The love that I am referring to sees an imperfect person full of flaws and still chooses to love them for who they really are and not what is seen.

I started to love myself like this, which consequently led to me loving my body and becoming more body confident and comfortable in the frame and figure I had been blessed with (notice how I now use the word ‘BLESSED’).

Loving myself was meant to be something that came naturally, but I had allowed lies and destructive words to stop the flow of something normal from taking place.
The layers of hurt, anger, pain and hatred that had built up over time, needed to be peeled away in order to get to the core of who I really was, so that the hidden flower could now begin to blossom. 

For years I tried to hide myself, stay in the shadows so I would not be noticed, because I feared what people thought of me or what comment they would make next. I became socially awkward and my slight introversion did not help, but when I changed my focus and started to intentionally disallow people’s thoughts of me or my body affect me, what I struggled a great deal with became insignificant.

I am not saying that I am there yet, but just looking at the above picture taken on a recent trip, I am reminded of how far I have come.
The irony is my body is not as snatched and prim and proper as it used to be, as
I now have deep stretch marks from my pregnancies, a little mum tum and my breasts do not sit the way they once did. Nevertheless, I love my body and myself a lot more now than before.

I am more appreciative of what I have because I now realise that my previous desire for another body/appearance was just showing my discontent in what God had said is wonderful.

A lot a people may not be able to relate to what I am saying, but for the few that do, I hope this helps you see that ‘Loving Thyself’ is attainable and also one of the best things you can do for yourself and those around you.

You need to start loving yourself now, because you have to live with yourself for the rest of your life. So make your living worthwhile and do it confidently.

I am not condemning improving your physical appearance or enhancing your beauty in whatever form you choose. However, whatever you choose to do, do it from a place of love not hate.

Until next time,

*Mark 12:31

Sunday, 19 March 2017

Being Self-Disciplined

"Men are anxious to improve their circumstances but are unwilling to improve themselves; they therefore remain bound." - James Allen

As humans, we like to be inspired but do not always move past that inspiration because simply put; it requires self-discipline.
Self-discipline is probably one of the hardest things to master, as it entails us replacing bad habits for good and productive ones, which goes against the grain of what we are used to.

We also do not like talking about it because it shows our weak spots and brings out areas about ourselves that we would rather not deal with.
Nonetheless, I am increasingly finding that the rewards of being self-disciplined can be so great and definitely essential to effective progress.

Do not do what I did and wait until you reach rock bottom before you have no choice but to be forced to change, under circumstances that may not necessarily be pleasant. Make a QUALITY DECISION to embark upon a more self-disciplined life.

...So if you know the right thing to do, but still find yourself doing the complete opposite, or you want to move away from underachieving and mediocrity to living a more fulfilled and confident life, then click the links below to watch my 2 part videos. You will hear some of my tried and tested methods that can make your life a whole lot better.


Sunday, 15 January 2017

Always A Lesson To Learn

Amidst all the things that took place last year I inadvertently learnt the most from Donald Trump. 
A lot of what he had to say infuriated me and if I am honest, it took serious will power not to get offended by him, as he stands for a lot of what I stand aganist. Nonetheless, his offence could potentially block the flow of love in me, and without love, I am nothing. 

Side Note: [I am learning that walking in love with people; particularly those that are the hardest to love, is one of the most important decisions I can make and I employ you to do the same. It gives you an overwhelming liberating peace that noone can take away].

Nevertheless, a wise man once said "do not overlook any opportunity to learn, especially when things do not make sense. There is always a lesson in the difficult and different circumstances of life", and learning have I done.

For me 2016 marked a vivid shift in how I viewed the world. It showed me that we must not always confine our thoughts to what we can see or how things have always conventionally been done. There must always be scope for change or change will force it's way through regardless.

I picked up a couple of valuable lessons from the campaign and victory of Mr. Trump, and being that this week is the start to his inauguration, I cannot think of a better time to share some of them with you.

Have a fabulous week and let me know your thought on the video below:

**This article/ video does NOT condone Trump, his actions or what he has said or is saying**

Wednesday, 11 January 2017

Am I starting this year off on the wrong foot?

...My stance this year is not due to lack of planning or thinking, neither am I encouraging inactivity. I am also not advocating you go through life with no direction, plan, purpose or desire to improve yourself.
I just feel that I need to start doing things for the right reasons and not just for the sake of it. I have found that if I have not specifically been lead of God to take a particular route or start something, then it often fizzles out as quickly as it started.

The reason we often fail miserably at resolutions is that we like the potential outcome the idea poses, but we do not like the process or change required to getting there. If the truth be told, all too often that change is just too big of a requirement on our current lifestyle.

You may have dreams and aspirations, but the timing to execute them may not necessarily be now. I am steadily realising that there is often a lot of learning and plenty of prep that is necessary before I am anywhere near ready, which is also true of some of the biblical examples before me.  
That is why I am applying the same principles of planning ahead and taking time out before I embark upon any new project (resolution).

There are things that I am doing now, that I know I could not have done a couple of years before. A lot of growing has happened in between and I have changed in the process. This in turn has helped build me up to the state where I can handle the challenges that come with that particular task. In the same line, there are things that I am not ready for now, but I know I will be in the future.

Hence forth, if the conviction and passion to see change through is not there, then I am not going to do it.

So take heart, hold on, be patient and take each season and phase as it comes.
DO NOT look around and compare your progress or activity to others, because that is the quickest way to get distracted from your course.

Watch this video with an open heart and I hope you understand where I am coming from.

Click the link below to watch my video and feel free to let me know what your thoughts are on this topic.

I love you guys, A+